hey friends,
This week I was thinking and studying about the relationship ( healthy relationships). I don’t know anything about this topic, so that’s why I dive into studying books and from some You-tube gurus.
As we grow we spend less and less time with our loved ones due to our work or studies. Sometimes we don’t give priority to it. We think relationship will work automatically, without putting any efforts, but reality is, it will not.
Great reltionships are built, not discoverd.
The more you spend time together (the more conflict will arise), the more you know each other, and the more your bond will be stronger. During growing up, you changed a lot of things in yourself, your priorities changes, your value system changes, without knowing these new things which you built ( acquire) during growing up, how it will work in a healthy way?
So in order to built the healthy relationship with my cousins, we came with the idea of meeting weekly or monthly (atleast).
I have been doing the weekly meetup with my cousins. We met at some restaurant for around 1-2 hours and do the chit chat there.
From last some years, we all are meeting twice a year on some family occassion or on festivals like Eid. It’s not that way, we didn’t want to meet or we are living far apart from each other, it is we don’t give priority to it and that’s why we don’t have time for it. we all have the urge of meeting each other than the festivals, but still we don’t have time for meetup.
I love this idea of meetup every week. It was not my idea, Maziya came up with this idea and I love it. I was impressed by her idea so I suggest them that from here we’ll meet twice a month or once a week in our hectic schedule.
It’s not that we don’t have time for each other, it’s the gap which we created from last some year. it’s the matter of priority. During the childhood we met daily, and we are always curious for meetup. But once we grow up and starts cutting our meet up time, with time we became okay from meeting once or twice the year eachother. That’s the gap which we created by our own hand.
It’s not only about the cousins, think about parents also. How many times you met with them weekly/ monthly/ yearly. Think about your loved ones? how many times you met with them weekly? Is you are okay with the number?
So here is the things which we do on weekly-date or Get-together!
- we choose the place.
- we go there and enjoys our meal.
- we do lot of chit chat . that’s it, as simple as it is.
yet we don’t have special activity which we can do there ( if you have any suggestion please drop the comment below💬)
